Thomas John Grothe Thomas John Grothe, age 89, passed away on October 12, 2026, in Murrieta, California.

Tom was born on May 19, 1937, in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, to Theodore and Mildred Grothe. He grew up with a love of cars, driving, and a bit of adventure, interests that would remain with him throughout his life. Known for his easygoing nature and quick sense of humor, Tom genuinely enjoyed people and encouraged others to enjoy life as well.

A truck driver for most of his career, Tom took great pride in his work. He often reminded others that nearly everything people use each day arrives by truck and believed truck drivers were the critical key for every consumer of material goods. He valued hard work, honesty, integrity, and treating people with respect, principles that guided his life and relationships.

Tom appreciated life’s simple pleasures. He loved a good cup of coffee (or a beer), sitting outside and watching the world around him, listening to music, spending time near the water, and sharing 1 meals with family and friends. His musical tastes were wide-ranging, though he was especially fond of jazz and blues. In his early years, he enjoyed boating and swimming and was content to spend an afternoon simply enjoying the beauty of nature.

Tom was married to his first wife, Hilda, for over 19 years and they raised their daughter and his stepdaughter in Oconomowoc, Wisconsin.

On May 19, 2000, Tom married Sally Westover, the love of his later years. Their marriage brought Tom new adventures and experiences he never would have pursued on his own, including relocating to California. Sally enriched his life in countless ways, and Tom treasured the twenty-six years they shared together. He was deeply devoted to her and took great pride in caring for and supporting her.

Those who knew Tom will remember his calm presence, kindness, gentle humor, and optimistic outlook. He believed in counting one’s blessings, appreciating what you have, and not taking life too seriously. Grounded in his faith, Tom trusted God and approached life with gratitude, contentment, and a quiet confidence that things would work out as they should (Romans 8:28).

Tom was preceded in death by his parents and his sister, Mary Strack.

He is survived by his beloved wife, Sally Grothe; his daughter, Valerie (Mark) Backus; his brother, Peter (Susan) Grothe; his stepson Todd Westover, Caz Westover and their children, Artemis and Gigi; and other extended family members and friends whose lives were enriched by his kindness, friendship, and example.  Tom will be interred at the Riverside National Cemetery, in Riverside California.

Tom’s legacy is one of faith, gratitude, hard work, humor, and quiet strength. He will be deeply missed and fondly remembered by all who had the privilege of knowing him.